This is something I really battle with. It’s not that I don’t know when to
keep quiet but more I just don’t want to which you could argue is a good thing
because I’m passionate & expressive, but at the same time I believe it’s important
to know when to back-off. Many of us have this need to be right, and so we
become confrontational and insistent that anyone who opposes our views be made
to understand (and agree with) our views. It’s human nature. No one likes to be
called out or told that they’re wrong. I really battle with this because
everything I do is thought-out and there is motivation and logic behind every
decision or viewpoint I have. When I argue with someone, there’s always this
urgency to get my point across and of course sometimes this can do more harm
than good.
What I’ve realised is there is also a benefit to dropping a topic for a
while. Doing this gives the other person (and you) time to not only cool off,
but also time to reflect on what has been said which could actually change
their or your own view. Often in these instances you end up fighting just to be
right and forget that the initial intention of the conversation was not to be
confrontational. So I think being cognisant of when to step up for something or
when to rather take a step back is crucial if we want to be fair to not only
the people we interact with, but also to ourselves and I think the results can
be much more productive than always adopting an aggressive approach.
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